The Attention Factor®

We’re already in the middle of March!!!

// March 22nd, 2009 // No Comments » // Attention, March, Russian Dressing, birthdays, book, cheerleaders, family, flavor, flowers, friends, movies, positive, rye bread, spring, world, writing

March, the name and the month, is special for me. It’s my birthday month, and it also happens to be my last name. Wonder if there’s a coincidence there?

I start celebrating the first day of March, which seems like it was yesterday, and already it’s the twenty-second…I know people who won’t celebrate their birthdays, don’t want to, and I feel that I have to make up for them. I think that’s a real pity, for that’s the day we were born, arrived on this planet to make a difference …when we can commit to being in integrity, being authentic and choose to heal ourselves and the planet. Celebrating is good!

Some people still have to learn to receive, to let others acknowledge them. Childhood memories creep in here, and if early birthdays were stressful, adults tend to shy away from wanting to do anything about their birthdays. When birthdays fall on or near Holidays, there are stories…memories which live forever…I have collected lots of stories about that phenomeon!!!

My, my soap box is really turned on tonight. I think I have some extra vetting energy because I took myself to my favorite deli tonight and was totally disappointed in everything I ordered – even commented to the waitress, who shared that other patrons felt the same way – no flavor whatsoever…I finally took a piece of their rye bread, always terrific, and dipped it in Russian dressing -that was fabulous. I could put Russian dressing, Thousand Island, on almost anything, and it tastes better. That must be from my mid-west Detroit roots.

I’ve been on a movie prowl lately and have seen three good ones: I Love You, Man, Everlasting Moments (Swedish) and Two Lovers. I guess I’m exhibiting spring fever behavior. The first movie is a wonderful stab at explaining male bonding/friendship which for so many has become so suspect…actually…I really liked that movie.

Spring: Time for flowers…lots…makes me feel honored and cared for; my balcony garden is looking good!

I’ve been motivated to write much more lately, to complete my long-awaited book and to get some product ready for Web site – I’ve got cheerleaders in residence who are really pushing me, as they think my work is vitally important, timely and needs to be out there – this really helps. I am grateful.

Just heard mega rain outside and as I love to sleep in the rain, after reading the Sunday New York Times, I think it’s time to head off to bed. Another week has come and gone; I am always running out of time these days – lots on my plate – making me very happy and challenged. Good to feel creative.

Hope all’s well all over the world tonight, especially with all my family and friends scattered here and there. I shall send them extra positive attention through the air waves…

Amazing Attention for Me and for a Portugese Dog

// March 17th, 2009 // No Comments » // Attention, Obama, dogs, family, friends, movie, musical, needs, painted, physical, soap box

I am very curious this morning. I’ve visited my Web site and observed that certain visitors stay for many minutes and do not leave their e-mail addresses, so they can receive up-to-date messages from me – a newsletter – an offering – a meditation. Others stay for a nano-second; I sincerely wish I could talk with them, especially the ones who stay around. What more could I share? I just hope that this is not the way of the world – a one way communication system.

Interacting with others is a must for me, either in person or, at least, on the telephone. I want to hear their voice, see their eyes, feel their energy. I don’t text. Oh, I can. I just have to turn on my thumbs. But that just isn’t enough for me.

A friend and I saw “I Love You Man”, a new movie, last night which dealt with many male friendship issues and did it thoughtfully and very well, I thought. My friend and I talked about how we both felt about all this texting, wondering if the next step in all this non-personal communication will be having a chip implanted in our heads: a frightening and dismal thought.

There is a very fine science-fiction book which already describes living that way. It’s called “He, She, and It.” Scary. Are we headed that way?

But why do I want to tell you about the Portugese dog? Because I saw one this morning, and I heard that the Obamas are considering this breed for their family. It’s hypoallergetic, is very loving, is very cute, and also needs lots of attention. They repeated that word over and over again as that’s the bottom line – like any family member. This one particularly needs to learn who’s the leader! Other family members need other kinds of attention; everyone does not need the same kind. Family’s really work well, when they determine exactly what the needs are for each member, as they’re all different….a novel thought!

I personally need time to see, because I am so very visual; there are musical souls in the song world, the world of orchestra s, the composing worlds. And there are physical souls who are in the sports world, dance world, hiking world. We all know them.

I “tank up” in museums, shopping in special stores, walking in visually gorgeous places, reading wonderfull illustrated books, looking at the sunset, and beyond. When I go into a new home, I always first look out the window. I am a trained hand-weaver, love to make collages and have even painted in San Torini once, which was the most of the best….

We’ve got to discover what turns us on and share that information with the people we care about, so they can support us in getting the specific kind of attention we need!
I guess it’s time to step down from my soap box!!!